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My girl - Danielle Tan

Bridesmaid - Danielle Tan
(Known : 10 years +)
(Since college time y'all... Can't believe its so long girl! Till you mentioned)

Who else will be my bridesmaid? Of course my girlfriend D.... We walk The Curve - The Walk together. And I totally dig her theory of walking along the path and leaving the past behind thingy when we walk back into the mall... (Figurative speaking) because we both have walk that walk many times and somehow tell ourselves it kind of romantic to walk down there with people we love. 2 years back when we are both struggling survivors of love. Ha! Ha! We are both hopeless romantic.... And I know that we will still walk that walk 10 years down the road like we still have it.... 

I have known D for so so long (I knew it was so long but never knew THAT long!), it was nice reminiscing old times together, eating Sakae Sushi and that Penang shop together, cam-whoring non-stop from Pavilion branded items to Sunway Pyramid Mango! We just hit it man! We seriously rock them all! So many things we have in common and yet we are so different. Looking back at one year ago! We both have done some serious crazy things together! Try mentioning Vodka! - Belverdere..... (Ha! Ha! Screams Screams!)... Opera!! (Ha! Drama Queens) We have a lot of fun and crazy mo' together and I know that for many years from now we will still have with our kids and hubby too.... 

And ya.. mentioned a few words for example like Taman Desa Guys??!! St John Institution!!!  That should come with a strong word! 'PAST TENSE' Go lick your own wound! We are still around and I know will always do! Girlfren rules.....


Thank you for being so co-operative along the line... I really appreciate it.... Co-operative friends are like pain-killer... ha! ha! 


Here we are... Both beautiful as ever.. Ha! Ha!  


One of my favorite pix with Danielle. Really look nice! Style ya.. Told you our hobby!

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My Maid of Honor - Karyn Ng

Just finished packing my little goodie boxes for my girls and was reflecting on each of them. As when hubby and I went around shopping for the gifts to put into each box for my girls, we kind of were talking about each one of you and how our friendship has grown throughout the years. Some I knew sometime ago, some just recently and were close. Friendships are important vital parts of our lives! "At times best of friends makes us wtf but then without them we will be a little less richer!" So I decided to dedicate one entry each for my girls.


MAID OF HONOR - KARYN NG
(Known : Since 1988 - The day she was born)

Nobody fits this part better than my sis, from my ass size 8 to ass size 4, she has seen it all. I do not have to be shy when i strip down in front of her when choosing my wedding and dinner gowns. I can count on her to say "Eww, that dress makes you look fat, ugly and disproportional." I can say the same to her without reservation! 

The duty of maid of honor started right after the proposal! From finding that right dress to discussing about wedding blues and on that day, my "MAID" ha! ha! to reading scriptures and giving speech, who can I count on to tell nothing but truthful, sugarcoated facts?? 

She stood by me and give me encouragement when things really went wrong and still do, the only person who has known every single trick on my book will no doubt be my sis. (Seriously!) From the time I was just a wayward child sitting in old town drinking tons of ice tea, she was there! We will do our normal outings and many things together. From saddest moment to happiest, I knew very well that when I pick up my phone and dial S-I-S-T-E-R, she will be there in her green baby car! Just never doubt that!  We do fight often and say nasty things but never was for a moment we ever not want to be sisters! God gives us this bond for a reason! He made up for the brokenness of my family with the strong glue of sisterhood and unconditional love of a family, all three of us, mom, sister and me... AND now hubby! 

I really thank you sis, for being my best friend, my listener, my confidante and now my maid of honor! Love you a lot and always will... Hope you love the gift that I have for ya... Sisterhood of the travelling pants... Yay! We rock Malaysia with our funny short pants and thunder thighs.... 

xoxo
Jie...


Me and my sis... Dining & whining is always our favorite things to do...


We are dorks! Clowning around! Sisterhood of travelling pants...


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Joy of giving to my girls....

Just went shopping yesterday and guess what! 

Told ya... I love to give and what more occasion to give to my girls.... 
I have carefully pick out each and every gift to put into the box.... And now is putting them together and hand made the gift card.... Lets take a sneak peak..... He! He! Giving makes me happy..... Love! Love! Love it.... God bless ma girls.... 


Pile of stuff that I will be putting together! "Popular!" Ignore that! That's stationery for gift card and wrapping papers. I am not going to buy you girls books! Ha! Ha!


Empty Boxes for my girls.. Aww so stingy! (Of course not)


Wait for it... There are more to come.... What is in it? Not telling.... until 18th Feb 2012
Oops while typing this! I remember one thing that I wanna add in. I love pampering my girls..

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Cards Ready! Our Peeps are going to be serve our NOTICE

After busying yourself for a few days, we have finally finished up the invitation cards and ready to go out! We have particularly make our own emblem and make our invites more special and personal.


The reason we only invite close friends and family is because we can make everything personal and special. Carefully thought and everybody can be able to feel our intention and heart into it. Here is our hard work done! And someone's going to get invited! 

We give ourselves 2 weeks to finish up distribution! I do not like last minutes invite! It always makes me think that I am a back-up and the person failed to RSVP so i was slot in! Happened a few times and what do I do? I don't bother to attend! So I do not want that thing to happen during my day..... Here they are delivery engines started warming up now!


The before... We have a long work day ahead! (Smiley! Smiley)


The emblem done! And Work done! 

 
Yes! You are invited! 

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Pre-wedding pictures? Pretty! (Part 2 - Outdoor)

We were wrong when we thought it was a relieve that we are done for the first day.The next day was even more challenging, we booked outdoor shots and here we go, with a prayer that it will not rain and the smartness to kind of put whatever we get from yesterday to use! We arrived at our first place, it was uneven ground (thank God I get to wear sandals!) and we then were made to follow all pointers while standing steadily on the ground. Next shot we were to lay down on the ground. I try not to do it but then "wth?!! we paid so much for it, we should do things that we wont normally do while "cam-whoring"" so here we are laying down on uneven rough ground. DONE!

Next challenge, hubby was to carry me, hubby already suffered from backache and having to patch tiger behind him and now the photographer made him carry me! Firstly I am not size 2, repeated myself for a dozen times.... (Remember all the rules of photography yesterday?) While carrying me, we had to perform smiling + eye focus + expression + legs + hands) and that we got sounded many times and finally we gave up. Ready to consider it a loss! 

Next up was the wet wet field! When I repeat wet twice, it was really wet! No joke! No swaggering! Its really wet! And we will have to walk to the middle of the field while avoiding the puddle of mud. Remembering how I used to avoid my PE classes a day after the rain by not going to school at all. Now it is the time where all the avoidance came back to me! I had to face it! - WITH A SMILE (: 

The session went on until evening and finally its done! 

Guess what? Coming back from yesterday, all the hardship has been worth it. Smiley! Smiley! The funny uneven rough ground! We totally look sweet on it, we have a few very very pretty shots. And then the carrying shots? Very natural, hands? legs? all in place and my eyes are even! Aww... And wet wet field? We pose like pro! You guys will get to see the pictures on actual day! As cooky as it sounded, I thank God for all the shots that came out pretty and I am really happy. Now we are waiting to share this pretty shots with all the people that we love. Aww... 

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Pre-wedding pictures? Pretty! (Part 1 - Indoor)

Have to admit I am no size 2 bride! But we just came back from viewing our pre-wedding pictures and it makes me really chirpy. In fact I am very happy with the pictures that we have taken and deem all the two days of hard work worthy.

Looking back at the day - 15th November, after our 28th October session got postponed due to false alarm of a fire in the bridal house, we arrived with anticipation and a little nervousness! Not really knowing what to expect! (Hello! Its my first time. All this while I only look at people's picture perfect albums and drool!) So now it's my turn to look all pretty and poise! (Man! Its difficult, I prefer my own usual look better) 

Make-up was like 2 hours! Honestly the time I took for make-up is like 15 minutes and not more than that, reason? I do not know what else to do if it runs beyond 15 minutes! Then getting into the dress and the challenge began! (Now it makes me salute models a little bit more! They deserve it) We kind of have this warm up session where we are allowed to clown around and emotions were rising. First actual pose was already difficult. Now I realize that a good pose consist not only of smiles and stuff that we normally do for our Facebook profile pictures and stuff. A good pose consist of :- - Smiling (But not too much) 
- Standing but not stiffly on both feet
- Expression flirty but not bitchy
- Both hands to be in stylish composure but not dramatic
- Legs (Ok what we do with it just soft but not like a ballerina and not hard like a soldier)
- Mouth (Show some teeth but not in a lame blur way + Smiling)
- Eyes (In spite of a pair of long eyelashes attached to it, being born with the right eye bigger than the left has it disadvantage. I must try to control my stare in order not to look like a retard)  - Eye focus = Smiling + Standing + Eyes  (Practice those formula and it will be fine... else get sounding again from photographer!)

And the list goes on! That was just in the studio with just walls, posters and stuff where everything is even, air-conditioned and clean.

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Bridesmaid Woe Over! Next rounds now.....

I am still having Christmas hangover even though Christmas is over for like 3 days, I love Christmas, its the only day we talk about giving, and I love giving. Seeing the happy faces of the ones I love when they opened the gifts I bought for them. This year I did not buy much presents, I just bought presents for family members, because continuous three days of celebrations were spend with families, both my side and hubby's. 

So I took off for a few days to enjoy the spirit of festivity and now I am back. Lets have a run down on my list! Bridesmaid Woe is over for now, I will not respond and we will see what happen next! I have order the dress for the rest of the girls and it will arrive 15 January 2012! So at least one item on my list is crossed out! 

Lets see.... Next up is Ring Bearer's Tuxedo! Sounds nice! BUT where to get! Aiks! I have asked around a few shops, even my own bridal shop but I couldn't find one that has the right size. Now is all scratch my head time! Where to find a shop that rent tuxedo for my little ring boy age eight! To add to the requirements, my ring boy is very tall compare to the boys his age! Lets just KIV it for a while.....

Another headache to read up, The Tents. This items has been sitting on our list and has been pushed to the next line for almost a month ++ We are doing a poolside wedding, and being in Malaysia - weather is one of the most unpredictable thing! Therefore tents are very important but we seems to always procrastinate when it comes to dealing with the tent guy! So I guess must make a progress in this item and hopefully we can cross it out before we ring in 2012! 

Round after The Tents! Well The wines! We have tasted a few and would have to go back and get more! The downside of this shop is that it doesn't provide tasting, so we end up having to buy a bottle home to taste it. So far we have not found to our fancy yet! We have been to weddings where the hosts just serve simply any wine! We do not want that to happen, so we are taking time (oops we do not have much anymore) to pick out a good reasonable one! That is hopefully we could pick the right one next trip because I am feeling that we can turn into wine-holic if we keep downing every bottle. Ha! ha! 

The list goes on and on! So the next time people ask me how is the progress, I am just going to smile and say... In progress! Fingers crossed! 

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Reasons.... WHY I WON'T

I just flipped through some really nice pre-wedding pictures with amazement. It was really nice piece of work, err... art  and blah... blah... blah.... (kudos! kudos). Well it is indeed something to place them first place in today's "challenging-I-am-better-wedding". Pictures taken from as far as New Zealand, Japan on the Mt. Fuji, Prague and the most bombastic I seen so far has got to be on a snowing mountain of Switzerland BUT then for the less, China & Taiwan is the substitute for the other costly destinations. All this has us including myself (no pun intended!) ogling and saying wow! 

(Pun intended now) Even though we could afford that kind of boisterous pictures taking, we will not! My friends ask me WHY??!! It's once in a lifetime! (OK! During this wedding prep period, I had heard that phrase used like a million times and it's a little really overrated! Wedding is Once in a lifetime! But so are all the other events in my life! They are as important! It is people's kiasu attitude that makes people especially particular about it. I am not going to embark on this "I want to be better than my friends" attitude) What is the use of squeezing your wallets and working extra part time just for this? I known a few friends like that! 

Reasons why I wont even though it is so call once in a lifetime! 
Firstly : 
Those pictures are nice to look at and it will make my friends drool over it BUT its just pictures and 5 or 10 years down the road, it will just be like any other pictures! Plus many married couple will share with you, they are actually a pile of white elephants at home!(Who would ten years later still ogle at your own self and say WAH!) 

Secondly :  Why waste all the money? (Oh! I forgot! There are actually a lot of filthy rich folks out there whose dad can afford Bentley or a Lambo and so they do not know what to do with their extra money in the bank! Ok that is acceptable! Kudos to them!)

Thirdly : 
The hassle involved in arranging those trips and time wasted! I rather have a lavish wedding, where all my guest felt appreciated, cozy and personal. 
Ok! Whatever! I wouldnt want to go on! Its your own wedding do what you want as long as you are happy, after all 'ITS ONCE IN A LIFETIME' isn't it??

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Then Comes One Good One!


Funny how at times, when you think that things would just get worst but then things just turn around for the better! I was feeling real bad a day before and was brooding over how I should find someone to replace the position of my bridesmaid! "The more the merrier" people would say! But then sometimes if "too many cook spoil the soup". I do not want to sound like I have turn into a "bride-zilla" but planning a wedding is really stressful, especially if we just wanted everything to be close to personal touch as possible!

Just got really hurtful when people do not co-operate! And this problem was like sitting in my mind and my heart for few days. I must admit I almost lost few nights of sleep thinking about how to go about it. So as much I am down with this problem, I wanted to have fun! So I went out drinking with some close friends, I did think to myself I should ask this girl to be my bridesmaid! I bet she will be more co-operative and more compliant when it comes to things! But then I didnt want to approach her last minute! So I just let it go, and went out to have a night of fun instead! 

Everything really turns out to be good! During drinking, this same girl volunteered herself to be my girls and I am more happy to oblige and to agree and say yes! So now turns out that after all the nights of sleeplessness things finally turn out to be good! I have found the replacement for it and YES I can sleep soundly tonight! 

BUT WAIT!!!! I have to tell that fussy girl that "It is ok! You can just relax yourself and do not fuss about it!" That have to take courage to say! And God only knows when I would summon that kind of courage around! But then I hope she got the hint that I was wanting to tell her, "She is replaced" 

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The Downside



Planning a wedding can sometimes gets a little overwhelming, it is indeed challenging! In fact it is one challenge after another. I believe that in many a times those challenges can be overcome easily without a lot of trouble. Nothing is all so more difficult compare to the one I had in hand now! This situation brings a lot of heartache to me and in fact I could not sleep thinking about it at times... It bugs me, it creeps into my heart and wound me and hurt me so much that I do not know how to go about it.

This matter involved friendship and relationship between people therefore it is the most delicate to tackle! I couldn't just tell the "matter-of-fact" to their face because then it will certainly take a blow on our friendship! But then I am caught in the situation where I do not know what to do. In normal circumstances, "given-situation" dresses and shoes and accessories are supposed to be their own! I so far think that it is my requirement to pink and lilac dresses that make them go out of the ordinary to put these dress on! So I decided to buy for them instead of just asking them to go out and buy especially for this my day! Plus it would be unfair to ask them to buy colors that perhaps they wouldn't get for their closet! So I decided to safe them the hassle. 

In searching for the "right" dress, I do not simply just find one dress and ask them to choose and fit on! I went through one by one of the shops and also online websites to fine one that I would see myself wearing and would look sweet on them! What I couldn't do is that to tell them that :
- If they wanted dress out of the ones I selected they may go ahead but on their own cost!

I am not particular when it comes to what you girls would wear as long as it is from your closet and you are comfortable with it and think would look nice and goes with my theme then ok! If not I can only be forced to :-


"CHANGE THE WHOLE WEDDING MARCH! - DITTO" 

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In all the tradition....


In all the tradition, it was my mom who insisted on me going through a typical christian wedding. If given a choice maybe I will! Or maybe I will not at all go through this hassle! Looking at the trend nowadays! Non-believers are all going for the Christian "walk-down-the-aisle" wedding! It almost make us look hassle-full to actually go through the whole process of counselling and getting an actual pastor to do our wedding!


The WORLD out there doesnt need this and they did just well! Walk down the aisle, exchange some vows that is close to "till death do us part" kind and exchange rings, drink some wine and etc! Imagine the length in which they go to mimic one of a christian style! I am saying this because I am not taking one shit from the church! Sorry to say I got so tired of listening to the bias opinions and the judgement of church people! I had gone through a whole long faithful church attendance! And just like the normal corporate world when you refuse to do what they expected of you, the somehow push you aside!

We are going through premarital counseling course with pastor and so far we have done 5 sessions with him until yesterday, he hinted us about doing this as a favor to my mom and my uncle who is in the church! I did not take so much thinking when it is said but then when hubby discuss the matter over with me, I realize one thing, this must be yet another thing that the church is giving some kind of shit to tie us down! We are ok to minimize our "wild" ideas and stick to tradition of the church but then if the church dictatorial board is going to set us a rule, we might as well forget about it! I know its harsh but then I am tired! I am doing this to respect my mom and to please many many many spiritual people around my circle! So here we go! In all the tradition I do love Jesus and I do love God and am thankful that I found my blessing and am blessed in countless ways because Jesus is the source of my blessing! He sees me and still sees me through every crook and sharp turns of my life BUT if the church is giving me yet another one of those "quote-the-bible-oh-rules-and-regulation" judgement I am NOT taking it!

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Weight Watching

Like I somehow mentioned and grunted a few times back;


"All brides seem to be size 2!"

And me being somewhere between size 4 -6 is definitely in a big loss.. Matter of fact in the wedding category, i reckon myself as "the biggest loser" is to the society, "a mammoth" among the animals or maybe "a giant" to my little people.... Aww... I definitely look out of proportion when it comes to seeing myself trying those gowns. In spite my hubby constant assurance upon me! I am not fat! But when it comes to wedding size M or L is like a "Eww you are fat" Maybe I am being critical upon myself but honestly, I have been slacking on myself with the weight thing ever since my relationship with hubby stabilizes! That is my fault and I confess my sin to myself.

So now I am on strict weight watching! NO more fatty food, no more supper (oh good bye Nescafe & Butterscotch) & above all no more big portion of whatever-i-think-i-want-to-eat-i-wallop. I have no choice but to take drastic steps! I have started my weight watching cum reducing one and the half months prior to choosing my first round gown for photo shot but yet when that day came on 25th October I still felt inadequately fat! Eventhough I had managed to reduce a whooping 5kg prior! Still I felt funny when the zipper doesnt went up as I wanted it to for the gowns that I have chosen. But finally I managed! I had chosen all 6 gowns... I somehow am pleased with it, alteration would be done....

Even after that, I continue my journey of weight watching, to be frank, indeed there are times when everything is alright! But i do give myself some slack with some yummy burger (guilt pangs will then cave in and make me feel totally bad about downing that yummy burger) BUT in-spite everything's alright, there are times when I totally would want to give in but tell myself it is for the better cause! I will look slim and slender ;) Yay! But then resisting that fat delicious bowl of "char kuey teow" can at times be challenging like doing a cartwheel or something (ok what's more difficult than cartwheel??!) But overall ok! I am spotting a recognizable downsizing! And that is something that I would love to maintain for a long time!
But then after that! The wedding pictures are done and while choosing I cant help but notice that I am a little chubby! Although hubby said that I am being paranoid BUT really you can't blame me though! (Maybe a little for being over critical) But the brides I see nowadays are all size 2... Size 4 doesnt qualify! So I am really going to push hard as the days are counting down!

I only now have about two months to slim up and "look right" for the big day! And fingers crossed! I am eating lesser and doing the right workout to look right! Hopefully I would lose another 5kg and I will be safe! Nobody wants to be a fat bride! (Now that there is another issue! Fat = "Is-the-bride-pregnant") So no choice! I am being critical about myself but this is one in one's lifetime! And the cause is worth the watch! MY WEIGHT.....

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