When the notices are all served, the job that is left is one of the most interesting part! Doing the RSVP. Before I go into the full story, I wanted to start off by saying, I began to understand why Chinese wedding dinner usually invite any Tom, Dick & Harry, uncles and aunties, distance cousins, seen-once-in a bluemoon relatives, never contact ex-colleagues and don't know how they look like anymore old classmates! Reason is very simple and I have summarized it into one sentence "If 50% doesn't turn up.... At least another 50% still does!"
Well we do not want to do this, therefore we are now suffering from the consequence! We both agreed that we should do something very personal and only invite people who we consider friends to us, irregardless if they could afford to bring us good gifts or big "ang-pow"! We wanted to make our wedding a place where we celebrate with people who matters to us (relatives unavoidable!), people who has offer friendship to us, and once share some moments with us!
What do we know now that we do not before sending out the cards?? Well we did a first round of asking if they are free on our day and they agreed! And once the card arrives! People start to show their colors! People that we think might be friends are actually not that friends actually! People who we seems like showing some concerns are actually some "kay-poh" (busybody) who loves to have a scoop of what's happening to everybody's life instead of truly caring for us!
But it is also a good thing that we do know now! Ok! Back to the RSVP! We call up people and the worst respond that I have gotten that truly disappoint me is that, that person did not want to reply my text or answer my call. Initially at first agreed to attend! So I wanted to pass the card to him and he told me to post it to him instead! And I did so, and when all my other postal friends has gotten their card and responded! This person did not pick up my calls, no reply on my text messages and fb messages! Therefore I gave up! I did not want to make myself so low in order to have you here! So be it! At least if that person could not make it please have the courtesy of telling me! Don't make stupid promises! This is not a child plays! We order those food based on RSVP!
Another one is my hubby's friends, before things were announced they keep asking "when is ur big day" "Do invite me for your wedding!" and so on with their questions, when it comes to responding to actual calls this people doesnt respond! Well stop being childish! Learn to face situations like adult and say no if you couldn't make it! Nothing is wrong! Well there you go!
We are not angry because there are people who are truly our friends and will never say no or will never complaint going the extra miles with us! And we are glad to keep them for life! Even more surprising, people that we consider backups eventually turn up and agree to arrive early for our big day! That makes us guilty to some sort BUT now first round RSVP is over! And people who agree to come has made me smile and I know very well we are going to enjoy ourselves and do hope people that say YES will have a good time
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