A Love That Will Last - Wai Mun & Sharon

Been married for 102 days, wow it sure looks like many days and years already! Well we had basically settle into good old married couple ways! Although there are many things to discover and many activities to do BUT we are good! (For those who are wondering! Not yet! We are still enjoying life together with our cutie care-bears and baby is NOT in the plan YET!)

Looking back at our wedding pictures those from 18th February and those from the wedding studio! I am glad to say we had our wedding the way we both wanted it! Although everything that could go wrong has gone wrong on that day BUT as we looked back now it was a very pleasant memory that we will bring with us for the rest of our life! We are proud to have planned and brought to life every single details in our big day! Our advice to people who are planning their wedding do what you wanted in your heart of heart! Do not listen to other opinions and most important DO NOT COMPARE! Some people just wanted to do better than so and so or some just have to comply and please all the party! Trust me at the end of the day all the people around you will forget how special it was and how you have satisfied their by-opinions and live like any other day without mentioning it again! It was you who will be stuck with "shouldn't have done it that way" regrets! 

So my advice on how we did it?
We both bought an empty note book and called it "The Wedding Book" we wrote all our discussion in it! As I flipped through it now, it looks like a scribble but indeed it was really sweet to look at it! We both sat down and threw in ideas, non-constructive ideas on how we want a certain part of the wedding to look like, example I wanted a pink and lilac wedding, hubby wanted a wedding where people can mingle, I always wanted a romantic pool side one, and hubby wanted a garden relaxing mode kind BUT all dressy and etc! These are all we put down! And then we disagree over a few things like how the setting of the ceremony should be and how he thought that one flower for one table is outrageously tedious! (Ooo like every healthy couple did, we disagree!) Just talk it through! Marriage strongest foundation is communication! Agree to disagree! Be open! If couples can't come to terms on how the big day should be done! What makes you think that "till death" will be easy?!? 

Budget
As I always stress! We must always sit down and roughly plan out how much we are willing to spend! Yes! It is once in a lifetime BUT do not overdrawn what you both have in your bank and what you both could make for the next three months! Do not be slaves to your wedding bills! Make sure you have some for a beautiful honeymoon too (We did!) When it comes to spending, I must admit guiltily that I love to splash BUT thank God for my hubby! He is not stingy but level headed! He is the one that keeps me grounded when it comes to spending, he will always weigh it first what is require and what is reward, so that I do not overspent YET still have all the bags that he could afford! ~la la la~

Do not please or compare
I know it is difficult especially when we are living in a very traditional Asian culture where people still believe that color grants supremacy so on and so forth! Another reason where young people feel pressured to please is because parents still contributes a very large portions of their wedding! I sat down with couples who told us that our wedding look all that breezy easy because we do not have to please! We thank God that our parent were easy going and modern and do not once try to interfere BUT that doesn't mean it was easy when we did not complaint! But most of all try to make it as simple as possible! A simple stick of red or a big basin of goods DOESN'T guaranteed a long lasting marriage! Its is a mature two people who decided to stay together and divorce is a sin that keeps the marriage together!  Plus do not compare! We always have that person that we want to do better than! Do not jump into that attitude where, she has a carriage for her wedding, I am going to do big Cinderella chariots and stuff! Come on! What you wanted and not what that person had! She wanted a carriage doesn't mean you need a chariot ;) So be level-headed!

These are the things that we can share with you in regards to wedding planning! As times goes by when inspiration comes maybe I will continue on! Now its almost time for cooking! So here I go! Signing off for the day! 

Sitting at home doesn't make me stupider like some people would presume.. In fact I have researched up some really cool stuff and some really cool recipes to improve my cooking! For now I have to really go on about something that I found out recently that makes me go "Oh wow!" We have used it ever since we are old enough to wash the dishes after meals BUT only now I realize that it has so many other usage in which I only now discover! I could indeed called it the one solution liquid - OUR DISH-WASHING LIQUID (Cheh! - OK before you guys switch over just give me a few mo' to actually get over this excitement) What it does?!?

1. It removes oil stains from your floor & kitchen
• Really! I discovered this after moving to my new home. We have this open concept kitchen & living so the oil sips through and get the whole floor oily! Therefore to stop my woes I did a Google search to see what I could do! And "wa-dah" I discovered the miracle of dish-washing liquid! So to remove oily stains on the floor, just mixed in a cap-full of dish washing liquid into your washing pail and mop away! If you have sticky & oily floor try mixing hot water & dish-washing liquid together in the pail and you are ready to clean!  
• Note: Cooking using sunflower oil or any flower oil will result in sticky & oily floor. Whereas cooking using peanut oil and etc will leave you with a oily floor. 
• Note: Olive oil? Extra virgin, virgin etc etc! Smart you discover this nature's best oil BUT keep in mind olive oil is NOT for cooking & deep frying, just quick stir fry or for salad! 
2. It remove stain on fabric cause by glue
• I seldom buy any clothing from "CottonOn" but I do not know why I walked in and found this really nice play-suit! The price tag says its MYR80 but I got it for only MYR30 when I went and pay for it! So happy! Later my joy was cut short when I realized that the huge sticker on the front of the dress that says "I am the all new play-suit" is irremovable!  When I forcefully remove it, it leaves residues that is really prominent and sticky! I smartly threw the receipt away, cancelling any chance of exchanging! So I have to remove it to make my money worth! So I try dish-washing liquid again! To my surprise after a few rubs the what seems like stubborn stains slowly were remove! I have a brand new play-suit! Ha! Ha!
3. Repels ants
• I hate dirtiness and what more pest! I live by this rule "I am lazy to do cleaning BUT I hate dirtiness even more!" That is the reason why I am such a cleaning freak! All the more after married! I realize that my kitchen top has a lot of ants and eventually they are making it an island! So I got really pissed off and try washing my kitchen top with dishwasher instead of those commercial kitchen stain remover! And ever since then I realize that it just works! No more ants on my kitchen top! Now I should use some on my dining table! Keep those hardworking insects away! But I have to figure out a way to repel lizards! Oh! I hate them as much as I am afraid of them!
4. It removes odor!
• If you have a spray bottle (like those you use for ironing) fill it up with diluted dish washing liquid and spray on your kitchen tiles! It works as good as "Mr Muscle" but twice cheaper! 
5. Home manicure
• I love home manicure, matter of fact I have tens and twenties different types of nail colors at home. Realize that when you go for manicure after the manicurist remove dead cells from your nails, they will make you soak your hand in a small boil of warm water? Well I used to thought it was some kind of luxury nail salon formula until they told me it was just eco-friendly dish washing liquid mix with warm water! This mixture will eventually soften your nails and remove grease and stains before painting you pretty! That is what I now do at home too...
6. Soaked your grissy tools and equipment
• Your man loves outdoorsy stuff! Well if they come in grissy and all oily, just tell them to wash their hands and feet with the dish washing liquid and they will be clean as normal! And to sound like you are really a smart-ass, wash their grissy equipments in a pail of dish-washing solutions and without telling you will look really smart the next time around ;) 

My choice of dish-washing! Aiya! You can get them easily from any hypermarket ;)

Teach me how to answer this question :-

QUESTION: 
We should be thankful towards our parents, no matter how little we still have to give back to them for the things that they give to us! So did you give to your parents?!??

ANSWER SELECTIONS:
A) YES - BUT YOU ARE NOT WORKING - SO YOU ARE GIVING FROM YOUR SAVINGS AND         YOUR HUBBY'S MONEY??!??
B) NO - YOU ARE NOT GIVING? WHAT A PRODIGAL DAUGHTER
C) SILENT - INDICATING YES OR NOT? ANSWER IS EXPECTED! 

Either way I answer, I still suffer consequence! I also do not know what to say! I just kept quiet! Next time my hubby pushes me to have lunch with the land-lady, I am going to fight sword and knife to not go! Thank YOU! Keep in mind! Every middle age lady who drives a Benz C class is a kay-poh! That is a deduction that I learned from EXPERIENCE! Thank You! Have a nice day! 

Just got well today! Was down with flu and fever for two days! Imagine! Two days of immobility! "Jeez! It is good to be alive and healthy!" Thank God for His healing touch upon me! I am able to run about doing my daily chores today! 

In the midst of your busy schedule, neatly divided between personal, work and play, remember to stop for a moment to count our little blessings in life! At time we are too busy chasing papers that we forgot to appreciate the small things that made up the big things we have in life. 
Thank God that :-

• We are able to wake up this morning to the birds chirping or the noisy neighbor kids badgering over something (How many out there never got to see the sunrise this morning)
• We are able to sit in the jam to work because we have a car to get there and a job to keep the car moving (these are the things I myself used to curse about every morning! Traffic JAMS! Workloads and etc)
• We are able to hear the voice of the one we love indicating that we are on their mind all the time (So many are still fighting to find that someone to love)
• We are able to pick up the call and hear our parents and siblings grumble about their challenges in life (So many out there didn't have that privilege of a family) 
• We are able to have friends who are just a phone call away! 
• We can enjoy Internet, air-condition, food, security and so on and so forth in our life

I love using the "Mood Weather Report" in Facebook! Whoever created that cute little report thing is a genius! You make Facebook a little less boring! Thanks! Whoever who haven't try that app yet, do go ahead and try! They do have all this cute little clouds in various different emotions! It is way better and more pictorial in expressing "what is on our mind!" And as much as I love the mood weather report! Here I am totally letting it take over my blog! My mood today is :

Since we are in the mood of Mother's Day! Do not just let your gratitude towards mom stopped there and you dig it out and dust it off once a year in the month of May to give mom her well deserved "Thank You." Mothers should not be only thank on Mother's Day, its not a sentiment, its not a i-have-to-do-it-since-everybody-is-doing-it ritual! Mommy doesn't need your flowers or your luxury meals on second week of May although they are good! But called mommy up or sent her a text message to tell her you care and you love her today! 

Here is something I read which is so true about MOMMY around the world!

Well when it comes to living life positively! It is easier said than done! People will always have opinions! 

1. We live luxuriously people will say "Save up money! You are living too boisterously!" and if we live moderately saving everything we have, people will say "Husband can make money YET she live like a pauper! Must be stingy couple" People are always going to have comments! 
2. Here is another one, now I am a stay home wife and I find some crafts and arts and new dishes to try, when people heard or saw those works, they will say sarcastically "She is a stay home wife! Got nothing to do so do all this thing!" and if I work my 9 to 5 and don't do anything they will say "Husband and family also do not know how to take care! Does she know how to play a character of a wife?!" Well! Day to day, we are drown by opinions of people that do not know how to see the good in other people! 
3. Here comes another one, if we bought a luxury handbag (because we could afford! No burden or credit card mess!) people's opinion : "This lady is such a spend-thrift! Spending money like water" (well that is the proverb used by Chinese) and add on if I say I went to Europe and get the bag for just MYR3500 (2/3 of the actual price in Malaysia) people will say "Is it real bag??!!??" or people will add on "Go to Europe and buy, calculating the airfare is about the same" well words AGAIN!

As everybody around us know, hubby and I love our Care-bears like our sons! We treat them like a part of the family and give them the best of everything. They traveled with us everywhere including our trip to Europe! We refer to them as our boys! 

Mother's Day is right around the corner folks! For me and my sis Mother's Day has always been celebrated, every year without fail and that calls for gifts (yay! I love to give!) Ever since when we are given our own pocket money, we have tried to save as much as possible in order to organize a small mother's day appreciation dinner! So after many years along with Mom's birthday and Christmas, the gifts ideas are running on limited ideas but nonetheless I still think of something to give and given situation now, choices are wider in range compare to when we were younger where we have to set budget of within MYR50. 

Nice place to get mom pampered. You can always give them a call 

and booked in advance. I went there in advance and request for a voucher from them and i put them in a nicely written card and envelope for mom.

4) A vacation

If you could afford it, it is always nice to buy mom a vacation, doesn't have to be expansive overseas trip, there are many beautiful places in Malaysia that can be really nice. Do pre-informed her first before placing the booking so that she knows because to some people travelling might not be their cup of tea! So hope that you know your moms.

5) A photo frame with your family picture in it

This is easy to do and very nice and affordable! All you need is a little effort and the ideas will flow freely!

6) Know your mom and look for things that she let hint when you are talking to her example

• Perfume 
• For my mom she especially like perfume and we wouldn't want mommy to use that cheap over the counter perfume that stales at the end of the day! So far mommy love J'adore from Dior (very sweet scent for a modern mommy) and Diamonds from Giorgio Armani. You can experiment with other scents and see which one you would imagine your mommy wearing! 
• Watch
• I remembered my first watch for mommy that she still wears until today! Its from Elle and I am in my first job and it was mom's day, so I brought her to choose which one she would like. Being a mom, I believe that they wouldn't want their children to spend so much on them and I remembered my mom choosing carefully never wanting to overload me! I think its time to get mom another watch this time something extravagant! (Christmas perhaps coz I have brought my mom's day gift already- Oops!)
• Wallet & Bag
• Nobody wants their mommy to still be holding that old wallet when we are all clad in LV, Gucci or Burberry! Buy mom something nice for all the times and efforts that she has poured into your life! She definitely deserve things that are good! Make her proud by buying her a nice wallet  or even a bag! This has got to be easy! Look at your ability, if you are the Guess kind of person, I bet you could walked into a Guess and ask for a nice wallet or bag recommendation from the sales person. To make it easier go to "Bags Affair" or "Bagz Bar" in Sunway Pyramid, they have variety of bags that will suit your interest for mom! If you are up for a certain brand and could afford it, well go for it! Coach, Longchamp and Burberry has a lot of suitable range for mommy! Try and see! You will be surprise! But most important thing is check your budget! 
• Electronic gadget? 
• Depends on how modern mommy is and what she required! Maybe mommy needs an iPad? Or and Apple iPhone. You could check it and buy mommy one! But then if mommy is not that tech savvy you could get her something nice like if mom love to bake - An oven, a saute pan, a gourmet tea brewery kit (its very nice and I am tempted to buy BUT I know it is of no use to mom!) but I would love to buy something nice to lighten mommy's work load - Yay! I have another gift idea! By writing this I have gift ideas until next Christmas! (Ha! Ha!) Here is something the new i-robot (no its not from Apple) or maybe its called the mini robot! (Automatic vacuum machine that functions to clean up the house at a designated time)  

This is the mini-robot Price : MYR1800

• Custom made Jewelry
• This is a bit old fashion but its always a safe bet for those who ran out of idea  on what to buy for mom! You can walk into Diamond & Platinum or Poh Kong Diamonds or any jewelry shops and ask for Mom's Day gift and in a material world today, they have a wide selection of Mom's Day gift. One for example check the below pamphlet out! 

Its been a week since I last blogged! Supposing people say that life at home be boring and I will have nothing to do! But I am quite busy as a matter of fact! Dunno why?!!? I was telling myself to get down into burning the CDs of my wedding pix for friends and families BUT I have YET to start on it... And was thinking to start back on my Lord of the Rings series! Resuming reading the last book "The Return of the King" but couldn't connect head or tail on the stories because I cannot remember all the details and the preceding events so I decided to read it all over again starting from "The Hobbits". (Problem : I haven't even flip a single page YET!) 

I have many of my friends asking me about this the moment I announced that hubby and I were relocating to Johor! "Remember to visit the JPO" "JPO man! Its going to be cool!" and so on and so forth. They make JPO look like it is something worth the hoo-hah! Well brought my sis and my mom there last week and it was nothing at all! Remember hubby's colleagues telling him JPO is premium man! It is something that the Johorian take pride in. Something that they consider above average! Well to be honest :

If you are from Johor : It's JPO man! It's wahhhhh!!!!!!
If you hail from KL the land of giant shopping malls, where they compete to built larger and larger malls each year you will be like" It's J-P-O?!!?? 

The main branded stores are : Burberry & Coach. (These are middle luxury) If you consider CK Jeans premium ok! Throw that in as well and also DKNY, POLO & Canali (If you have heard of them! No! Not Cavalli! Not Roberto Cavalli that I love! Its Canali) 
Then followed by the normal shop items : Nike Factory, Puma, Adidas, La Senza Lingerie, Padini, Body Shop and so on and so forth. Those that basically you could easily get in Midvalley, Sunway Pyramid! How premium is that? What I consider Premium is..... VENICE & MILAN! Every single shops is branded, ranging from upper luxury (Gucci, Hermes, Prada) to luxury (LV, Salvatore Ferragamo, Valentino, Armani and so on) that is what I called premium! I could called Pavilion, The Gardens maybe The Curve premium but this hardly qualify! 

Only thing worth to be called premium is the way the shops are design. Its is something very new and fresh! The concept is nice! They are very modern. It's opened air concept! They do copy some architecture from Venice! Venice is surrounded by water up to the doorsteps but this is land but equally pretty I would say! So well done on designing this thing! I love it! But honestly they need to buck up on the shops that they house else this place will lose it appeal.

I went into normal shops like Padini, Body Shop, G2000 and La Senza. 
Padini Concept Store - You should look at the way your KL counterparts arrange their goods, its much more easier that way given that you have the privilege of space that they don't have! 
Body Shop - With such a big store, you should carry full range of your BodyShop products instead of partially! I went in and ask for the shimmer blusher and was told they do not carry cosmetic products! Why not?! It's not premium enough?
G2000 - Majority of your items are off season and on discount? Good sign or bad?
La Senza - You ran out of sizes? How come? For your info Malaysia do not have that much DD, E & F sizes! But more to B and C cups! So why are you stocking up on those??!!?? You should be looking at smaller cups (sorry I am really small - no worries as long as the hubby does not complaint!) I was told that you ran out of bra & underwear of normal sizes. Come on! That's a bummer!

Then the location is nothing to be happy about. It is built in no-men-land! And you have to go through highways and byways to get to it! Another downside is food outlet! There is not much food outlets available??!? You should called in more up-class western and local cuisines. Food do attract people from near and far! Choice of food is very limited! So will I be going back again? Maybe for the Starbucks and for the fun of dating with my husband! Maybe!