102 days and many more to come

Been married for 102 days, wow it sure looks like many days and years already! Well we had basically settle into good old married couple ways! Although there are many things to discover and many activities to do BUT we are good! (For those who are wondering! Not yet! We are still enjoying life together with our cutie care-bears and baby is NOT in the plan YET!)

Looking back at our wedding pictures those from 18th February and those from the wedding studio! I am glad to say we had our wedding the way we both wanted it! Although everything that could go wrong has gone wrong on that day BUT as we looked back now it was a very pleasant memory that we will bring with us for the rest of our life! We are proud to have planned and brought to life every single details in our big day! Our advice to people who are planning their wedding do what you wanted in your heart of heart! Do not listen to other opinions and most important DO NOT COMPARE! Some people just wanted to do better than so and so or some just have to comply and please all the party! Trust me at the end of the day all the people around you will forget how special it was and how you have satisfied their by-opinions and live like any other day without mentioning it again! It was you who will be stuck with "shouldn't have done it that way" regrets! 

So my advice on how we did it?
We both bought an empty note book and called it "The Wedding Book" we wrote all our discussion in it! As I flipped through it now, it looks like a scribble but indeed it was really sweet to look at it! We both sat down and threw in ideas, non-constructive ideas on how we want a certain part of the wedding to look like, example I wanted a pink and lilac wedding, hubby wanted a wedding where people can mingle, I always wanted a romantic pool side one, and hubby wanted a garden relaxing mode kind BUT all dressy and etc! These are all we put down! And then we disagree over a few things like how the setting of the ceremony should be and how he thought that one flower for one table is outrageously tedious! (Ooo like every healthy couple did, we disagree!) Just talk it through! Marriage strongest foundation is communication! Agree to disagree! Be open! If couples can't come to terms on how the big day should be done! What makes you think that "till death" will be easy?!? 

Budget
As I always stress! We must always sit down and roughly plan out how much we are willing to spend! Yes! It is once in a lifetime BUT do not overdrawn what you both have in your bank and what you both could make for the next three months! Do not be slaves to your wedding bills! Make sure you have some for a beautiful honeymoon too (We did!) When it comes to spending, I must admit guiltily that I love to splash BUT thank God for my hubby! He is not stingy but level headed! He is the one that keeps me grounded when it comes to spending, he will always weigh it first what is require and what is reward, so that I do not overspent YET still have all the bags that he could afford! ~la la la~

Do not please or compare
I know it is difficult especially when we are living in a very traditional Asian culture where people still believe that color grants supremacy so on and so forth! Another reason where young people feel pressured to please is because parents still contributes a very large portions of their wedding! I sat down with couples who told us that our wedding look all that breezy easy because we do not have to please! We thank God that our parent were easy going and modern and do not once try to interfere BUT that doesn't mean it was easy when we did not complaint! But most of all try to make it as simple as possible! A simple stick of red or a big basin of goods DOESN'T guaranteed a long lasting marriage! Its is a mature two people who decided to stay together and divorce is a sin that keeps the marriage together!  Plus do not compare! We always have that person that we want to do better than! Do not jump into that attitude where, she has a carriage for her wedding, I am going to do big Cinderella chariots and stuff! Come on! What you wanted and not what that person had! She wanted a carriage doesn't mean you need a chariot ;) So be level-headed!

These are the things that we can share with you in regards to wedding planning! As times goes by when inspiration comes maybe I will continue on! Now its almost time for cooking! So here I go! Signing off for the day!